It's time for PYHO with Shell at Things you can't say. It's a great meme and a wonderful chance to get part of YOU out there to share with others.
My parents divorced very early on in my life (when I was about 4). Because of this my sister (4yrs. older) took on the role of the second parent. Partly because of the circumstances but partly because it was her nature. So she was always like a second mother to me. Like my mother I think she was even more protective of me after my illness.
Growing up I always looked up to my sister thinking she was so cool. I loved spending time with her and I believe her with me. She took me out for my first bagel, she took me on the freeway when I was learning to drive which almost gave me a heart attack, she even let me hang out with her and her "cool" boyfriends and go "slurpy timin'" in the middle of the night with them (just a walk and slurpees….let's not get carried away)
She was smart, funny, cool. She was wonderful. She was my big sister whom I love dearly. I sadly say was….
She met a good man. He served a mission for his and now my church. She joined. I joined. She helped me through many difficult times including having my dad being totally against us joining the church. She was extremely supportive of me when I chose to get married in a temple of our church. She and her husband sacrificed much to come 2000 miles to my wedding. She had great faith. She was so strong. Or so I thought?
We were always close and then….well….then I don't know. It just all stopped.
After 11 yrs. of marriage and 1 son she just up and turned her back on the whole thing. So it seems to us on the outside. She won't talk to anyone just expects everyone to understand? Understand what? Leaving your husband who is a good man? Leaving your 2 yr. old son? Leaving your church?
You know it's funny how so often the sibling who has the most animosity towards a parent who wronged them turns out to be the most like them. My dad left my mom and three kids just "cause". He fell out of love (I don't believe that)? He just couldn't handle the responsibility? He was immature and being completely selfish. Hmmm seems a little familiar of the situation now. My sister, being the oldest when he left, had a lot of bitterness and anger towards him for what he did and now she's doing the same thing.
Where did my sister go? Or did I ever really know her?